Friday, 5 June 2015

Edition One

Dear Auntie Lea, 

     I really think that I have what it takes to be an adult model in SL, but I am finding it hard to get work. I have no photo skills myself but I can take directions well, what can I do to get noticed ?

- Pensive Pornnoob

 Dear Pensive,

     We all started out new in our chosen professions in Second Life, and the adult porn industry is a difficult one to break into sometimes.  The pornstar groups DO tend to be cliquish (even if they deny it), and when no one has seen your name before, it's incredibly difficult to get anyone to notice you.
     What I normally tell people is a list of certain things to do:
  • Read this article from the Sexiest Pornstars blog, it really DOES help!
  • Join several of the porn groups in Second Life, like The Sexiest : Pornstars, SL Porn, Pornstar SL (these are three of the groups, you can find them quite easily under Search, and Groups tab).  TALK in the groups.  Don't just say "model/pornstar looking for work"; try to become part of the active conversation in a friendly way.  Talking to people and letting them get to know you is the BEST way to stand out.
  • Go to the parties.  Parties are a fantastic way to really meet people, see what people look like, interact, AND have an awesome time.  Don't be shy, as quite often these parties become naked parties, and people will have sex on the sides with folks they are attracted to.
  • Remember that in Second Life, there is no such thing as an actual "casting call".  If a photographer or a film director say that you need to actuall have sex with them during the shoot, they are not actually using you as a model/actress; they are using you as a "booty call".  Especially while filming, since the producer had to hide all the interface and chat windows and such to film a movie, hence he/she won't be able to sex you while producing a film.
  • Seriously, spend money on your avatar.  I know this is pointed out in the article, but it cannot be stressed enough.  Bring at least $20USD into Second Life, and spend it on high quality skins, shapes, mesh body parts, mesh hair, mesh feet and hands (if you get a mesh body from Maitreya, Slink, Belleza, TMP etc, most of them come with mesh feet and hands as well).  You are selling your image, not just your personality.  If you don't know where to shop, ask people in the groups, they are more than happy to give you landmarks or to even go with you to help pick out the right look.
  • If you wear tattoos, please remember to try to make them look good.  If it is just strong black ink that looks like they used a Sharpie marker, it's going to look REALLY bad on film.  Go for something that looks like a RL tattoo, and remember that you will be KNOWN for what you wear on your skin when naked.
  • BE friendly.... be yourself.  Even when you have been a pornstar for awhile, no one likes a prima donna. 
  • Remember that porn does not pay in cash, it pays in enjoyment of showing off our work and our efforts.  The director/producer/photographer pays for everything on the set out of their own pocket.  They spend enormous amounts of time buying, setting up, getting casting set up, shooting, editing, producing, and promoting their videos and photos..... and give it away for the enjoyment of the world FOR FREE.
     I DO hope this helps out, my dear Pensive.  If you have any problems finding the groups, or wanting to know when the parties will be, please feel free to message me again, and I will be more than happy to guide you to the right destinations.

Love and Light,
Auntie Lea

Thursday, 28 May 2015

Welcome to Auntie Lea's Advice Column!

Dear readers,

Please pardon the mess in the parlour here, I am having a touch of decorating done;)

Welcome to Auntie Lea's advice column.  This is a brand new "official" foray for me into this field, but something I have been doing for many, many years.... both in and out of SL.  I have been told on many occasions that I do actually give good advice, both of the common sort and the more uncommon, dirty, or strange kind.

For those of you who do not know me, let me introduce myself.  My name is Leannan Wolfgang (in SL, my legacy name is Sufferingfrom Lockjaw... yes, I know, it's a funny name;)). Ingame, I wear many hats: owner of a grid-wide adult hunt (Hunt for Your Inner Slut), owner of a pose store (Erotipose), live singer, model, actress for both voicework and erotica, amateur photographer, customer service for a large furniture store (Xplicit Furnishings), director beside my producer husband for a film studio (In Da Pink Productions), co-owner of a nightclub (Vixen's), DJ for a wedding venue (Eternally Yours Weddings), and correspondent/hunt assistant at BUSTed Magazine .... I will probably find out later that I missed something;)  I also run a page on Facebook that are woefully neglected (Second Life Memes - English).  I also dabble in some building and texture creating.

I am also a wife to a very patient and understanding husband who is also my dominant.  We do not live a "traditional" life in either the regular "vanilla" way, nor in the BDSM or D/s way, but it is perfect for us.

In Real Life, I am a 41 year old disabled stay-at-home mom of 4 furkids (dogs, cat, and ferret), who of whom are special needs.  I have lived all over the North American continent (US and Canada), and am well-versed in quite a few cultures, not just American. I have been online since I was 14, starting out on bulletin board systems and working my way up to online forums, MMORGs (Massively Multiplayer Online Roleplaying Games), and adult chat forums. I have been a bit of everything, from a stripper (when I was young and not disabled) to seamstress to Renaissance faire re-enactor to office manager for a medium-sized software company.  I was an active swinger for majority of my adult life until recently (due to physical health reasons), part of where my vast knowledge of sexual information comes from.

I am giving all this information is for this reason:  Ask anything.  I am not Dear Abby or Dear Prudence in that I will not toss out the letters that are "seedy"; I am available for any question you might want an unbiased, honest answer to.  I am always happy to help people where I can, and if I can make your life a little happier, healthier, or full of laughter, then it's a win-win situation on both sides.  Just fill out this form, and I will post the responses on here and possibly our syndicated page on BUSTed Magazine

Love and Light,
Auntie Lea

P.S.  As you can probably tell from the looks of this blog, I am NOT well-versed in blogging, HTML, Java, or anything website-creating based;)  If your question is regarding any of these, I will ask an outside friend for insight on your problem;)